homeschooling

My Husband Wanted to Homeschool Our Kids. I Said Absolutely Not.

He had been thinking about it for a while. It had never even entered my mind…

When my husband first brought up homeschooling, my internal response was something along the lines of: I have a master’s degree. I value education deeply. And you want me to do what, exactly?

I had a very specific picture of homeschooling in my head – and admittedly it wasn’t a flattering one. In my experience, homeschooled kids were sheltered in a particular way. No fairy tales allowed. No imagination allowed. No fantasy books. A kind of educational Puritanism where fun was suspicious and curiosity had to be contained within approved parameters. I didn’t want that for my kids. I’m not a helicopter-y parent. I didn’t want to be responsible for every second of their everyday continuously!

I also worried about friends. Would they have any? Would they be socially awkward and unable to relate to other people?

(A small voice in the back of my head noted that I hadn’t had a lot of friends in public school either. I ignored that voice for a while.)

And underneath all of it was the real fear – the one that kept me staring into space like Cupcake Dog (this was before Cupcake Dog, but the metaphor still stands..).

What if I shorted my kids out academically? What if my choice to do this unconventional thing robbed them of something they needed? What if they were wimps and couldn’t deal with life because they’d been too catered too their whole lives? I cared too much about education to be careless with it.

What Changed My Mind

Honestly? There wasn’t a mountain of internet research to consult back then. There weren’t the statistics, the studies, the communities, the curriculum options there are now. Or maybe they were there, but on the Baby Internet, I didn’t know where to find it.

What there was, was my husband making a case he believed in, and me deciding to give it one year and see.

That was it. One year.

What happened in that year was that my son – who would have spent his days with his bum molded into a plastic chair for eight hours, bored and restless and forced into a pace that wasn’t his – got to follow what he was actually interested in.

He got to enjoy learning instead of endure it. We got to build our own social life intentionally rather than hoping the right friendships happened to materialize in the right classroom because they magically had the same birthdate range that he did. We got to choose our curriculum, our rhythm, our approach.

We never looked back.

My daughter came along and was homeschooled from the start. My son graduated at 17 and is already a college sophomore at 18 – not because he’s some prodigy, but because he spent his entire education moving at his own pace instead of waiting for a group to catch up.

He is now attending college (with zero problems applying and lots of offers to lots of places based on my transcript – one I can help you make, too!), directs chess tournaments as a US Chess certified director, is the music intern at our church, and knows exactly who he wants to be.

My daughter is 15, already knows she wants to pursue interior design and the visual arts, and has an internship at a wedding venue under her belt, and is a graphic design whiz – not because anyone pushed her toward it, but because she had the space to discover what she actually loves.

Both of them have attended apologetics conferences, know what they believe and why, and walk into any room confident in who they are. They can talk to adults and other kids and aren’t scared to disagree with either. Neither of my kids turned out strange and friendless. They turned out to be themselves.

The Thing About the Reluctant Spouse

If you’re reading this because you’re on fire about homeschooling and your spouse is looking at you the way I looked at my husband – I want you to know something…

Their concerns are real. They’re not just being difficult. Well, maybe they *are* just being difficult, but for this purposes of this article, work with me here…

I’m sure they love their kids fiercely and are scared of getting this wrong, which is actually a very good sign.

Of all the parents I’ve coached over the years, many of the ones with zero doubts are the ones who got burned out fast. Doubts don’t mean No. They just mean Let’s Explore This First.

The fears are almost always some version of the same things:
Will my child be academically prepared?
Will they have friends?
Am I qualified to do this?
Am I going to ruin their lives?
Will they miss out on important experiences?
Are we going to become one of thoooose families?

These are reasonable questions from a person who cares.

What they need isn’t to be steamrolled. It’s to be heard, and then given real information.

That’s why I made a toolkit.

The Free Toolkit: Everything in One Place

I wish something like this had existed when my husband was making his case to me. Statistics on academic outcomes, the real data on how much actual learning time happens in a public school day (it will surprise you), talking points for the socialization conversation, practical frameworks for getting started, and honest answers to the fears that actually keep people up at night.

I put it all together so you don’t have to go hunting across seventeen (or seventeen thousand!) different websites trying to build your own case.

It’s free. Just subscribe here and it’s yours.

If you’re the reluctant spouse reading this – welcome. I was you. Come on in! The fairy tales are no only allowed but encouraged, and nobody wears floor length jean skirts with denim vests and clunky sneakers around here. At least, not simultaneously…

If you’d love personalized help thinking through your homeschool approach – or figuring out how to have this conversation with your spouse – I do one-on-one coaching sessions. Thirty minutes, no pressure, just real talk. Book a chat with me!


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Our Favorite Audible Audiobooks for Homeschool Families

Our Family Audiobook Library

There are few sounds in our house as reliable as an audiobook playing in the background. Someone washing dishes. Someone doing a puzzle. Someone (let’s be honest — me) folding laundry for the third time this week while half-convinced I’m actually in Narnia or trailing behind the Wingfeather children through Glipwood Forest. Audiobooks are not a screen-time loophole in this house. They are a lifestyle.

I went back through our Audible library recently to pull together this list, and genuinely — it was a trip. The little-kid books. The ones we started when my oldest was tiny and then just… kept listening to together as everyone grew. There is something almost sacred about a story that spans years of a child’s life.

So here is our actual, honest, listened-to-many-times list, organized by genre so you can find what you need. These aren’t hand-picked from a sponsored list or chosen because they sounded good in theory. Every single one has been listened to in this house — some until we could practically recite them. I hope they find their way into your home too.

“You have to write the book that wants to be written. And if the book will be too difficult for grown-ups, then you write it for children.”

— Madeleine L’Engle
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Fantasy & Adventure

Epic worlds, brave heroes, and stories that last a lifetime

The Chronicles of Narnia
The Chronicles of Narnia Complete Audio Collection
C.S. Lewis · Kenneth Branagh, Patrick Stewart & more
Full Series
The Hobbit
The Hobbit
J.R.R. Tolkien · Narrated by Rob Inglis
The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring
The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring
J.R.R. Tolkien · Narrated by Rob Inglis
Whole Series (Obviously!)
The Wingfeather Saga
The Wingfeather Saga
Andrew Peterson · Narrated by the author
All 4 Books
How to Train Your Dragon
How to Train Your Dragon (Books 1–3)
Cressida Cowell · Narrated by David Tennant
Gets Intense
The Mysterious Benedict Society
The Mysterious Benedict Society
Trenton Lee Stewart · Narrated by Del Roy
Full Series
The Enchanted Castle
The Enchanted Castle
E. Nesbit · Narrated by Johanna Ward
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Classic Literature

Timeless stories that grow with you

A Wrinkle in Time
A Wrinkle in Time (Archival Edition)
Madeleine L’Engle · Read by the author
Anne of Green Gables
The Anne of Green Gables Collection
L.M. Montgomery · Narrated by Susie Berneis & Tara Ward
Books 1–6
The Jane Austen Collection
The Jane Austen Collection: An Audible Original Drama
Jane Austen · Claire Foy, Florence Pugh, Emma Thompson & more
All 6 Novels
The Secret Garden
The Secret Garden
Frances Hodgson Burnett · Narrated by Johanna Ward
Pollyanna
Pollyanna
Eleanor H. Porter · Narrated by S. Patricia Bailey
Little House on the Prairie
Little House on the Prairie
Laura Ingalls Wilder · Narrated by Cherry Jones
Peter Pan
Peter Pan
J.M. Barrie · Narrated by Lily Collins
The Blue Fairy Book
The Blue Fairy Book
Andrew Lang · Narrated by Angele Masters
The Children's Homer
The Children’s Homer
Padraic Colum · Narrated by Robert Whitfield
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Faith, Apologetics & the Good Stuff

Books that feed the mind and the soul

C.S. Lewis Essential Audio Library
C.S. Lewis Essential Audio Library
C.S. Lewis · Narrated by Julian Rhind-Tutt and others
9 Works
Is Atheism Dead?
Is Atheism Dead?
Eric Metaxas · Narrated by the author
Tactics
Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition
Gregory Koukl · Narrated by the author
The Case for Christ
The Case for Christ
Lee Strobel · Narrated by the author
Unoffendable
Unoffendable
Brant Hansen · Narrated by the author
The Jesus Storybook Bible
The Jesus Storybook Bible
Sally Lloyd-Jones · Narrated by David Suchet
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Mystery & Detective Stories

For the little Sherlocks in your house

The Complete Sherlock Holmes
The Complete Sherlock Holmes: The Heirloom Collection
Arthur Conan Doyle · Narrated by Simon Vance
Full Collection
Encyclopedia Brown
Encyclopedia Brown
Donald J. Sobol · Narrated by Jason Harris / Greg Steinbruner
Series
Nancy Drew
Nancy Drew (Original Series)
Carolyn Keene · Narrated by Laura Linney
The Hardy Boys
The Hardy Boys (Early Original Books)
Franklin Dixon · Narrated by Bill Irwin
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Little Kid Favorites

Going through these was a full trip down memory lane

Frog and Toad
Frog and Toad Audio Collection
Arnold Lobel · Narrated by Arnold Lobel
All 4 Books
A Bear Called Paddington
A Bear Called Paddington & More About Paddington
Michael Bond · Narrated by Stephen Fry
The Ramona Quimby Audio Collection
The Ramona Quimby Audio Collection
Beverly Cleary · Narrated by Stockard Channing
All 8 Books
Mr. Popper's Penguins
Mr. Popper’s Penguins
Richard & Florence Atwater · Narrated by Nick Sullivan
American Girl Series
American Girl Series (Molly, Samantha, Kirsten)
Various Authors · Various Narrators
Series
Homer Price
Homer Price
Robert McCloskey · Narrated by John McDonough
The Vanderbeekers of 141st Street
The Vanderbeekers of 141st Street
Karina Glaser · Narrated by Robin Miles
When We Were Very Young & Now We Are Six
When We Were Very Young & Now We Are Six
A.A. Milne · Narrated by Peter Dennis
The Ralph S. Mouse Audio Collection
The Ralph S. Mouse Audio Collection
Beverly Cleary · Narrated by B.D. Wong

That’s our list — every book genuinely loved, many listened to more than once, and in a few cases so many times I could probably narrate them myself. Audiobooks have been one of the quiet joys of our homeschool — filling the kitchen during math, the car during long drives, the bedroom during rest time.

If your family finds a new favorite here, come tell me. That is genuinely one of my favorite things.

Now go press play on something wonderful.

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Easter, Holidays, homeschooling

The Charlotte Mason Easter Basket: Filling It with Wonder (Not Plastic Grass)

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Every spring, there’s a moment in the checkout line – usually sometime in late February, when the stores have already been wallpapered in pastel for weeks – where I stare at a bag of plastic Easter grass and feel a small, quiet rebellion stirring. SpongeBob gummies made of fake ingredients with a bunny ears hat. Peeps made of who-knows-what.

This is not the Easter I have ever wanted to give my children.

I want the Easter where my kids wake up to baskets that make them feel known and loved, while also not having fake not-real-food ingredients created in a Mad Scientist’s Lab. Where the Resurrection and the over-arching story of beauty and growth and spring is not competing with seventeen pounds of sugar. Where the things I tucked in with care are still being used in June.

That’s a Charlotte Mason Easter basket. And it is absolutely worth thinking about.


Why This Matters (More Than You Think)

Here’s the thing about Easter baskets – they’re actually a chance to put something living into your child’s hands on the morning that is about living.

Charlotte Mason believed that children were born persons, fully capable of encountering great ideas and beautiful things. She wrote that the mind “lives, grows and is nourished upon ideas only; mere information is to it as a meal of sawdust to the body.” What we choose to give our children – literally, physically put in their hands – is a kind of curriculum. A basket stuffed with throw away plastic and sugar says one thing. A basket with a field guide and a new nature journal says something else entirely. It invites kids to adventures!

Plutarch said it best (and homeschoolers have been quoting this one for centuries, often by accident attributing it to Yeats – but Plutarch said it first – which was news to me!)… “The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled.”

Easter morning, of all mornings, is exactly the right time to hand a child something that kindles something.

These aren’t just things in a basket. They’re invitations!


Living Books and Read-Alouds

Charlotte Mason would never separate a season from its stories. The power of story is something that animates me 100% of the time. Easter is no exception.

For the youngest ones: Beatrix Potter’s tales are perennially perfect for spring – Peter Rabbit belongs in a basket like daffodils belong in a vase. A beautiful treasury edition is the kind of thing that survives years of reading and still looks like a gift. I have my grandmother’s Beatrix Potter set! It is highly treasured.


For the middle grades: The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett is the quintessential spring read-aloud. A neglected garden, a grieving house, and the slow miracle of new life – it is practically an extended meditation on resurrection, except it was written before anyone decided literature needed to be obvious about these things. A beautiful illustrated edition tucked into a basket is the kind of gift that becomes a childhood memory.


For poetry and folklore lovers: The Complete Book of the Flower Fairies by Cicely Mary Barker is gorgeous – illustrated verses for every flower of the season, the kind of book Charlotte Mason would have handed her students without needing to explain why.

There are also fantastic pop-up books of her flower fairies which are harder to find, but worth it! We have several of them and I loooove them.

photo by Amazon reviewer, the hocketts

photo by Amazon reviewer, the hocketts

“Children must have books, living books; the best are not too good for them.”
~Charlotte Mason


Nature Study Supplies

Spring is when the whole world is cooperating with your nature study goals. Take advantage of it.

A hand lens or magnifying glass (we love this Melissa and Doug one!) might be the single best tool for any age. It is simple, it works, and it turns every backyard into a discovery. Pair it with a fresh nature journal – blank pages, not lined, because a nature journal is not a worksheet – and you have given a child everything they need for a season of noticing.

A butterfly net and bug observation container are perfect for the backyard naturalist. Catch, observe, release. This is Charlotte Mason nature study in its most essential form.

For the budding birder, a window bird feeder is the gift that keeps teaching. Add a field guide to backyard birds for your region and you have a complete tiny ornithology kit that will entertain and instruct for months.


The Good and the Beautiful has a wonderful, lushly illustrated Bird Watching Guide, which we adore.


And seed packets. A few carefully chosen flower or herb seeds, a small terracotta pot, a bit of soil. Tending a plant from seed through the summer is one of the most natural lessons in patience, stewardship, and resurrection-shaped hope that I know of.


Art and Handicraft Supplies

Handicrafts were central to Charlotte Mason’s vision of whole education – forming the hands alongside the heart and mind.


Beeswax crayons (look for Stockmar brand, which is widely beloved in CM circles) are rich and creamy and come in lovely tins that feel like a gift before you even open them. Block crayons for young children, sticks for older ones. They are nothing like the waxy, pale versions you grew up with.


Watercolor paints – a small, quality set – open up nature journaling in a completely new way. Spring flowers, bird sketches, the first green things pushing up in the garden: all of this becomes art with a good brush and transparent color.

For teens, a beginner embroidery or needle felting kit makes a lovely and increasingly rare gift. This is the kind of slow, beautiful work that settles a teenager. (Trust the process on this one. My own teenager, who is interested in art and digital design, has also discovered the deep satisfaction of making something with her hands.)


I’ve always been partial to anything Klutz brand and they have a kit called the Super Cute Embroidery Kit, which is aptly named!


Faith-Based Resources

A Charlotte Mason Easter basket, for the Christian family, has Christ at its center – not as an afterthought, but as the whole point.

Resurrection Eggs are a classic for good reason – twelve eggs, each containing a small symbol from the Easter story with accompanying Scripture. This places the Gospel narrative directly in small hands, in a form that is tactile and memorable. Miss Mason believed children should always go to primary sources. This is the primary source. I found out about this tradition when my kids were older and we never did it ourselves, but have had friends that did.

For a more liturgical walk through the week, look for resources that move through Holy Week day by day. The rhythm of Palm Sunday through Easter morning teaches something that no single lesson can.


And consider a beautifully illustrated children’s Bible. The Jesus Storybook Bible by Sally Lloyd-Jones has become beloved in CM homes for its literary quality and its thread-of-redemption framing – the sense that every story is really one story, and it’s the best one. C.S. Lewis would have approved! There is a new gift edition, which I may need to get for our home, even though we have a couple of the “regular” version already.


For Older Kids and Teens (Because Wonder Has No Age Limit)

Here’s where I push back a little on the idea that teenagers have aged out of a meaningful Easter basket. They haven’t! They may have aged out of finding plastic eggs in the yard, but they have not aged out of getting a basket of surprises that make them feel unique and loved.


For the teen who loves to read: a beautiful edition of Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis is the Easter basket book I’d give to any thoughtful 16-year-old. It is quietly one of the most profound explorations of faith, doubt, and transformation ever written. Not preachy. Just devastating and life-changing in the best possible way. It is great for thoughtful kids wanting to explore and get their own footing in Christian thought, not just plod in your footsteps without thinking. The cover even looks Easter-y in the bright robin’s egg blue!


For the teen naturalist: a quality sketchbook and a set of fine-liner pens for scientific illustration, paired with a field guide specific to their current obsession (insects, fungi, birds, native plants – pick your kid). Teens who have been nature journaling since childhood often hit a point where they want more precision. Give them the tools.


I love Eeboo books! They have gorgeous sketch books and equally adorable pencils and colors!


For the creative teen: a good set of watercolor brush pens or a beginner calligraphy kit are both wonderful. Beautiful, portable, and genuinely skill-building.


For the teen who is asking hard questions about faith (and good for them!! that means growth!): The Case for Easter by Lee Strobel is short, accessible, and takes the historical evidence seriously.

Or for the literary-minded teenager, Orthodoxy by G.K. Chesterton – because nothing kindles a thinking faith like Chesterton.


A Word About Candy (Yes, There Can Be Candy)

I’m not anti-candy. I want to be clear about that. But I am very much against what’s in most of the candy filling the Easter baskets at every big box store right now – and it’s worth talking about for a minute.

Synthetic food dyes – the ones that make candy aggressively neon and jelly beans look like a fever dream – are petroleum-derived chemicals that the research is increasingly not being kind to. A comprehensive review of 27 clinical trials found that 64% showed associations between synthetic dye exposure and behavioral changes in children, with 52% reaching statistical significance. We’re talking about hyperactivity, yes – but also attention, impulse control, and mood. Research points to mechanisms involving disruption of dopamine and serotonin metabolism, leading to neuroinflammation and impaired impulse control. The FDA’s safety thresholds for these dyes, by the way, are based on studies from the 1980s that weren’t designed to measure behavioral effects at all. So there’s that.

This isn’t a fringe concern anymore. It’s peer-reviewed and piling up.

The good news: you don’t have to choose between Easter candy and a chemistry experiment. Natural Candy Store (naturalcandystore.com) is my go-to for dye-free, naturally colored treats that are genuinely festive and actually taste good.

They carry gummies, jelly beans, chocolate eggs, and seasonal options made without artificial colors, flavors, or corn syrup. A small bag of their naturally-dyed jelly beans tucked into a wicker basket is still joyful. It just doesn’t come with a behavioral side effect.

They also have lots of sprinkles!! You can never have too many sprinkles!

I have been a loyal customer of theirs for over a decade and they have saved many a birthday party! They have super kind customer service.

I also always order (early… they sell out!) Cadbury eggs from Amazon that are sent from the UK. The UK version is not synthetic and they taste just the same! Read more about that and see the labels here in another Homeschool with Joy blog.

Your kids can have candy on Easter morning. It can just be candy that isn’t working against the brain you’re so carefully educating the rest of the year.


Building Your Perfect Charlotte Mason Easter Basket

You don’t need to do everything on this list. That’s not the point.

The point is intention – choosing things that open rather than close, that invite rather than entertain.

I hope I’ve sparked a few ideas!

A few practical notes:

On the basket itself: Real wicker. For the grass, skip the plastic entirely – paper Easter grass has a lovely crinkled texture that photographs beautifully, and woven or raffia-style filler is even better and feels genuinely old-world. A cutting of clover or a handful of whatever is blooming in your yard right now tucked in at the edge makes it look like spring arranged the whole thing. Easter is April 5 this year, which means spring is genuinely here in most of the country – use it.

For very young children (under 5): One or two books, a set of beeswax crayons, seed packets, and maybe a small stuffed bird or bunny. Simple. Sensory. Perfect.

For elementary ages (6-12): A nature journal, a hand lens, one living book at their level, and a small art supply. Add Resurrection Eggs or another faith-based resource if you don’t already have them.

For teens: One book that will challenge them, one art or craft supply that builds a real skill, and something that says I see who you are becoming and I support you. That last one doesn’t have to cost anything.

For “just because” baskets: Everything here works outside of Easter too – a spring birthday, a homeschool encouragement gift, a “we survived the first semester” celebration. Living books and nature tools are always appropriate.


The Deeper Thing

I’ve been thinking about why this matters so much to me – the intentional basket, the meaningful gift, the thing that will still be on the shelf in July.

It’s because Easter is the story about how death didn’t win. How the ending everyone expected wasn’t the actual ending. How the garden on Sunday morning held an astonishment that changed everything.

And I want my children – on that morning, with those baskets – to hold something that participates in that. Something that says: the world is full of things worth noticing, worth making, worth reading, worth believing.

Not a bag of plastic grass and stale jelly beans.

Something alive.

“The question is not – how much does the youth know? when he has finished his education – but how much does he care?”
~Charlotte Mason

What does your family’s Easter morning look like? Do you do baskets? I’d genuinely love to know what living books or nature tools have made it into your family’s Easter traditions. Tell me in the comments.

And if this post was helpful – save it for later and share it with a fellow homeschool mama. Easter is April 5 this year. We have just enough time.

P.S. A quick note: this post includes Easter eggs. If you’re in the “eggs are pagan” camp, I respect your convictions, and this post is probably not for you – and that’s okay.

For the curious: eggs are actually one of the oldest Christian symbols in existence. It is not about Ishtar. This cartoon says the rest better than I can.

Wes Huff also talks about it. Also Inspiring Philosophy.

Early Mesopotamian Christians dyed eggs red to represent Christ’s blood. Saint Augustine wrote about the resurrection using the image of a chick bursting from an egg. There’s a beautiful Eastern tradition that Mary Magdalene herself brought eggs to the tomb on that first Easter morning. The egg has been part of the Christian Easter story for two thousand years – long before any of us were having this argument on the internet.

I’m not here to fight about it. I’m here to build a great basket. If you don’t do that, peace out. If you do, peace out. Onward.